Parents initiate our coming into being, they shower us with love that is purely eternal, selfless and abundant in nature. We deem their presence to be irreplaceable, people might come and go, we might absolve some relationship, but the relationship that is shared between kids and their parents is precious. Precious to behold, to earn and to live with.
Though, like any relationship, there are complexities in this relationship as well. We might refute some principles or experiences they might have, based on our own, or we might just agree to disagree with their opinions. I do cherish and frown upon the constant blows that is shared between my mom and I, over politics, or my take on relationships or the latest Kanhaiya Kumar case. They are old-school people with older ideologies that are tightly bound across their mind as a legacy, which had to be shared with the coming and the existent generation.
They have encouraged us, inspired us and enlightened us with time, however, they seem a bit reluctant when it comes to questioning the authority. They come from a time wherein the final word of a more authoritative person or an elder is the final one, regardless of their own opinions. They have silently accepted and nurtured themselves with the same thought over the years. However, things changed when people of our generation started raising their voices over their accepted stances, and needless to say, all hell broke loose.
In a recent post shared by Dhruv Deshpande, he brought light to the issue of our parents and their thought process, which, willingly or unwillingly, is implemented on us. We may fight our spirit out over the intolerance debate that is going around, most would still fail to fathom the consequences of lost freedom. We may uphold the idea of a love marriage, but in the end, we might just go for a person our parents find acceptable.
As per Dhruv, the biggest propagators of the notion of rape culture, caste system, racism, Islamophobia, homophobia etc are our parents’ generation, however latent it may be and maybe in the slightest, but I agree with him. The major reason for us turning out to be a stereotypical or a sexist society is because the ‘ideal’ norms were constantly imparted to us, till the time we weren’t brave enough to challenge the ideologies firmly sitting in our minds by gaining and understanding various perspectives.
Maybe it’s time we start questioning authorities of people who are setting guidelines to our life. One cannot ignore this under the pretext of it turning out to be disrespectful, we might be disrespecting them if we silently accept the atrocities they impart to us, and much more than that the atrocities they themselves bear on their stagnant times.
Times change, so do the ideologies and bringing in new thought process doesn’t mean demeaning the old. Maybe out of fear of losing out the practices of older generations our parents might be strict in the implications of norms, however, that shouldn’t stop us from inhibiting them to develop a better character.
Discussion should be manifested in every dining room and it’s high time we evolve from just discussing the food menu. We love them and they love us, which makes the overall process of discussing and harbouring different notions a lot easier.
They have their truth and we have ours, and as for the universal truth- it really doesn’t exist.