A White Wedding

“I’m wishing for the one I love
To find me today
I’m hoping
And I’m dreaming of
The nice things he’ll say. ”
— Snow White

Every baby girl grew up listening to fairy tales of a prince charming, coming and sweeping their princess off her feet, marrying her, wearing the perfect white gown and then living happily ever after in a palace.

As we grow older, we realise that maybe, just maybe, life isn’t a fairy tale. But, secretly, we wish and hope that somewhere out there, a prince is awaiting our arrival, waiting to sweep us off our feet.

And then, we meet the man of our dreams, who sweeps us off our feet which is then followed by the perfect white wedding. It is at this time where we feel that fairy tales do exist, after all.

Now a day weddings are all about extravagance. They even have themed weddings, with cakes that have exotic flowers -flown from another country- to decorate it!! The whole essence of the perfect white wedding gets distorted.

But, I guess that’s an individual’s choice, right?

Now, what is the white wedding?

The word “White Wedding” originated for the first time, when Queen Victoria wore a white coloured lace gown for her wedding. It was only after her wedding that; it started to become a tradition to wear white.

According to me, a perfect white wedding includes the basic things; a flawless white gown, the father of the bride walking her down the aisle; symbolising the handing over of his daughter to her husband and passing over the responsibility to him and the exchange of rings.

When you go into a bridal gown shop, you go with an expectation of feeling like a princess once you’ve got your perfect gown on. You know it’s the perfect one when, after wearing it, you tear up and feel that this is it; the time, where you are no longer going to be Daddy’s
little Girl.

The essence of the wedding is the feelings that you go through; the feeling of happiness and sadness. Happy because you’re marrying your Prince Charming and sad because you’re leaving the first man you ever learnt to love; your dad.

When you are walking down the aisle with your dad, catching his hand for the last time, it strikes you that he held your hand when you were taking your first steps and he’s now holding your hands for the last time. But, you also see your Prince. And, that’s when you realise that you are starting a new life; a life that is totally different and has a lot to teach.

All I have to say is that, a “White Wedding” is not just about the colour of the gown. It is about maintaining the innocence of a wedding; yet making onlookers jealous of the perfect fairy tale story it tells. It is keeping the sanctity of a wedding and a marriage intact; and, nothing more.

Anoushka Sequeira

Image Source: [http://www.flickr.com/photos/epsos/4328777173/]