This is the beauty of family, when love can be shared, returned and exchanged for the existence of our lives. Parents take care of us all their lives, employing all their resources so as to provide us with best amenities present. From schooling, till seeking our admissions in great colleges, our parents are the strongest and the only pillar of our lives who will be there for us to rely back on, when we ourselves are dwindling.
In their lifetime, every action of theirs speaks of nothing but our betterment and our empowerment. I remember by dad doing part-time post his office hours, so that he could give both of his daughters the most comfortable and luxurious life possible. I can never repay him, for what he has done is priceless. I can promise to give them the love and the care that they have so generously showered me with, something they still do even now.
But, as I have noticed and seen in this new world, children are hesitant to extend the same courtesy to their parents during their old age. How can we abandon someone, who has given us life and beautifully nurtured it to their best, on the pretext of formulating our own life? Why is leaving them an option in the first place?
Out of every 10 elderly couples in India, more than 6 are forced by their children to leave their homes. They are somehow coaxed into leaving their homes, their kids to enter a vicinity that supposedly would safeguard their health, both physical and mental. Every other day, we see news of parents being beaten up by their children, parents and in-laws being forced to do the household chores, being made to live in small dungeon-like rooms, their property being forcefully taken over by over ambitious children. Stealing their money, torturing them by verbal assaults, apparently, all love gets lost with time, and it is nothing but saddening and inhuman.
Humiliated and broken beyond repair, such old couples go forth and look for a different house; a house that isn’t theirs, filled with members that aren’t theirs to love. With no place to go and all hopes lost, the elderly have to resort to old age homes, which do not guarantee first class treatment. At a time when they should be pampered and spoiled silly, they are sent off to fend for themselves. Somehow, a phenomenon called ‘grand dumping’ is becoming common in urban areas, as these days children are being increasingly intolerant of their parents’ health problems.
After a certain age health problems begin to crop up leading to losing control over one’s body. It is then that children begin to see their parents as burden. It is these parents who at times wander out of their homes or are thrown out. Some dump their old parents or grandparents in old-age homes and don’t even come to visit them anymore. Such homes are nothing but a sorry excuse for home.
It is true that every struggle might end, but the struggles ensued by parents never ends, till their last breath. What has happened to the generation of kids who cannot even afford to take care of their parents, when they have the world at their disposal?
Parents can never be a burden and it is disgusting if some of us make them feel like it. I can never repay whatever my parents have done for me, however, the least I can do is take care of them when they are old, ailing and suffering. Let’s give them love when they are in dire need of it, and not when we need some share of inheritance or some money to ward off the loan. Provide them with everything possible, and ensure a healthy lifestyle for them, and even if sending them off to an old-age home is the only option, make sure that its’ not deteriorating in its essence.
Respect your parents, and love them with everything possible, because, no matter how far we come, our parents are always in us, and they are the only God who has ever answered us, or ever will.