If you are the kind of person who believes that everything in life happens for a reason, then my article would surely match your taste. I strongly believe that everything that happens has a divine purpose behind it which rules every decision of ours – be it right or wrong. It has been rightly said that “every why hath a wherefore”.
Man is not just a social animal but an animal plus something more. The thing that differentiates him from all other animals and enables him to be a maker is what we call reason.
The same rule rules and manages the non-stop traffic of relationships in our life. In fact, reason, in general, can do more than blind force. Have you ever wondered why you come across so many kinds of people in life?
You ardently love some people while some are always hated by you; some people just do not matter to you and there are still some towards who you are only neutral. At times, someone reminds you of someone else and at times, you completely forget everything else after meeting someone. Some people reciprocate your feelings with an utmost devotion while some are shamelessly ungrateful through and through. Some people always selflessly cater to all your needs, earnestly listen to even the smallest of your problems, unfailingly tolerate your childish tantrums and devotedly comfort you like angels even if they get nothing in lieu of their love and care. Yet, there are many who never even bother to say “hello” to you, who rejoice on seeing you in pain, who intentionally hurt your sentiments, take advantage of you, cheat you, fool you and what not.
But just try to give it a thought once. Every incident marks a beginning and also has an end to it. When things fall apart, there is a strange way of their falling into place again. You may not like what is not in your favour for nothing has an uglier look to you than reason when it is not on your side. All growth is not development and all movement is not forward. But remember, sooner or later, you are ethically compensated for whatsoever you do. All your actions are judged by a cosmic cycle. Blame it on stars or anything else; life has its own way of making you learn things. You may seem to be planning your life but actually, life has its own plans for you.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet some need that you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, the person may say or do something for bringing the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What you must realize is that when your need is met, your desire is fulfilled and your work is done, then it’s the right time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done before. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real, but only for a season.
Some people come into your life for a LIFETIME. Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons as well. They teach you the things that you should build upon in order to make a solid emotional foundation. Your duty is to accept the lesson that such people teach as well as to love the person by putting whatever you have learned to use in all other relationships and in other areas of life. It has been rightly said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thus, you must try to reason with whatever that happens in your life. After all, emotions only have taught humanity to reason.
Relationships have a “to and fro” motion in everyone’s life. People come and go. But it is you who have to find out the meaning that they add to your life. You have to explore the dimension of the direction in which they lead your life. If you just choose to welcome them when they come, and bid them adieu when they go, then you will never be able to find the meaning of the journey that you travel with them. The course that your life took with them – smooth or thorny, ought to be meaningful anyhow. You know, the happiest people do not necessarily have the best of everything in life but they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. Your approach should also be the same.
Be it a good being or an evil being, each has its own importance. Maybe, you are supposed to meet the wrong kind of people before meeting the right ones so that when you finally meet the right ones, you can know how to be grateful for their presence in life.
Life teaches you the meaning of presence and absence too. At times, you tend to ignore some blessed relationships and only realize their importance after you are past them. People leave you and go away so that you can realize what you had when you had them. It’s undoubtedly true that you do not prize what you have until you lose it. But this also is true that you do not know what you had been missing from your life until it arrives.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You just cannot afford to go on successfully in life until you let go of your past mistakes, failures and heartaches. All you can do is to ask for enough good people who bring happiness with them to make you sweet, enough difficult people to make you strong, enough evil people to keep you human and enough exemplary people to inspire & motivate you and give you hope to feel lively.
You can choose to dream what you like, go wherever you want, be what you want to be, because you have only one life and only one chance to do whatever you want, but people, who will come into your life and go, will surely make a difference.
An assured happiness always awaits you if people make you cry; if people leave you hurt, if you have searched for it and if you have tried to get it, for only then can you appreciate the importance of all the people who have touched your life.
Remember, people cannot teach you anything, they can only help you in discovering what is already hidden in you; in unlocking your own secrets.
The author did her schooling from Sophia (2007) & graduation with honors in English literature (2010). She is a final year student of M.A. (English Literature). She is also an NGO worker at Akshar, Jaipur & teach English to underprivileged kids. Besides, she is a soft-skills & spoken-English trainer working with Jobs Train. She has been appointed to teach English to B. Tech. students at LNMIIT, Jaipur. She is a wannabe academician, an avid reader, an amateur poet, a freelance writer, an amateur photographer, an amateur sketcher & painter. She enjoys swimming, travelling and the simple pleasures in life.