Marriage is an institution, where the couple promises to be together with each other in sickness and in health, in times of sorrow and happiness and more so in violence and abuse. We are a society that has an amazing capacity to bear things, to bear marital rape ( there’s not much choice in this), domestic bashing, emotional manipulation and various threats that just not leave a scar on the body, but makes a deadly imprint in the mind of the affected person.
However, with time, apparently the level to bear things has shaken up a bit. Lawyers and mediators in the city say divorce petitions have gone up “manifold” in the Capital over the last 10 years, as per a report in The Hindu. More than 100 divorce applications are being filed in the city’s courts every day. What happened to the promise of the couple being together birth after birth, forever and ever?
As per the report, impotency and cheating are no longer the biggest reasons for divorces. The partners fight over the lack of respect for each other and the one given to the parents of the couples.
It’s a positive change to see women and men both fighting up to protect their self-esteem first rather than the ‘idea’ of a family tied together by the act of marriage. Women are no longer hesitant to speak up regarding the atrocities faced by them in their daily life, neither are the men too sceptical about voicing out the concerns that might make society question their masculinity.
Does this new change highlight the fact that the marriage binds two people whose decisions shouldn’t be influenced by the working of our tedious and narrow-minded society?
Another commendable thing that gets highlighted from the occurrence of divorces is the help provided to the concerned person by the authorities in power. The constant support of the police to aid a violence-struck women is laudable.
Special Police Unit for Women and Children (SPUWAC) is taking steps that is the last hope for crumbling and fragile families about to be shattered. However, they aid the women and counsel them regarding the magnitude of the step they are taking, while making them aware of the implications involved. Not compromising with the respect of the women, they counsel them for the rightful action which includes either breaking apart or pursuing couple counselling if there is hope for reconciliation.
The question that arises is what has made people opt out of marriages they find no happiness in? Is it because of the broadened perspective that has been accomplished by the people? Or is it due to the fact that people are finally breaking free of the prejudices that usually bind them for life?
The reasons are questionable, but the conclusion isn’t. People are vying for a better life and those who are able to break apart of these wrist-clutching binds are able to achieve happiness even when it comes out of misery.
However, usually such stance of breaking away can be noticed among people who are not economically dependent on their partners for survival. But, what happens when there is economic dependency to an extent that the person has to bear the burnt of a toxic relationship all their life?
Though there is help, but is that help going to be enough for a person who is not independent in their lifestyle? Till what time are they supposed to feel the burn of such a relationship, maybe till death does them apart?